Singer Ben has opened up about the real reasons why she decided to get a divorce just six months after giving birth.
We got the full, unfiltered story when K.Will recently dropped a video titled 'Knowing Hyungsoo' on his Youtube channel on the 24th. In this episode, Ben shared, "I feel like I've been through everything. Naturally, my personality has changed as well." She added:
"The divorce process was difficult, and ending it was, of course, incredibly painful. It wasn't just a simple breakup. We had a child together. I made the choice to get a divorce just 6 months after giving birth."
Ben admitted that things had been rocky for quite a long time, recalling, "I often say that I carried the burden of living with that person for five years. Since we weren't just simply boyfriend and girlfriend, I have to be extremely careful. I tried holding it in, getting angry, and many other things. Then I became pregnant." She explained that the pregnancy felt like a lifeline at first, saying:
"When things were at the hardest, I became pregnant. I thought, 'This child has come to save me.' I believed that no matter what happened, I would finally be happy."
But she revealed that things quickly took a turn, saying, "But even at that moment, another incident occured." She added, "I feel betrayed. It was just too overwhelming to handle."
Even when she decided to separate, the choice wasn't easy. She shared, "Even when I was separating, I kept wavering. I wondered, 'Should I not leave?' and 'Is this really the right choice?" She revealed that what ultimately pushed her forward was looking at the bigger picture:
"I looked ahead. I imagined my daughter 3 years later, when she would be 6 years old, and asked myself, 'Will things be better by then?' Somehow, I felt like I would probably still be having the exact same thoughts. I figured if it wasn't going to work, it was better to end it sooner than later."
Breaking down in tears, Ben added, "I'm not good at ending relationships. Especially when I love someoney, I love deeply and give my everything. There were many things that happened that broke the trust between me and my ex-husband, but aside from that, he was still someone I truly loved. That made the breakup extremely painful."
Despite the heartbreak, Ben stands by her choice. She emphasized, "Marriage is not something you can sustain based on feelings alone. That's why I made a very difficult decision." She continued:
"Even now, I believe getting a divorce was the right move. I need to be whole, I need to be happy, and I need to survive so that my child can survive too."
Ben also confessed that her family wasn't initially on board, stating, "My father was strongly against the divorce." She added, "He's from an older generation, so he has a different way of thinking. He told me that everyone lives through such things. I feel incredibly sorry to my father, but I have a long life ahead of me, I had no choice."
On top of that, Ben was also pressured by the fear of the public eye. She admitted, "What scared me the most was that I had announced, 'I'll be back after giving birth safely,' and then ended up getting divorced." She added:
"I was afraid of how people would look at me and what they would say. I'm in a profession where I'm constantly being judged, and this was a choice I made. Even so, I couldn't help being afraid."
Looking back on her fearful past, she continued, "I was so scared that my body was literally trembling from the anxiety. I never regretted my decision, but I was terrified of what people would think. I worried that the public would think I'm ridiculous for leaving to have a baby only to return as a single mother."
Ultimately, that fear is why she decided to join the cast of 'All By Myself.' She admitted, "Deciding to appear on the show was also a difficult choice, but I thought it would be better if I told my story myself. The fact that I'm a single mother isn't going to change, and it's not like I did anything wrong. I wanted to show that this was a choice I needed to make in order to live well."
To give you the backstory on her relationship, Ben married a businessman back in 2021 after a period of public dating, and they later welcomed their daughter. However, they announced their divorce in 2024. At the time, her agency stated that the divorce was due to 'fault on the husband's side' and confirmed that Ben would take the full custody of their child.
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